What’s A Good First Date?

The first date can be difficult and intimidating. How do we now it is a good one? Experts say that responsiveness is an important sign that she’s interested and wants to see you again

“Nothing is more awkward on a first date than having the conversation just stall out. This can be a sign that the chemistry isn’t there. The opposite is also true, says Spira. “When you’re on the date and time passes by so fast, because the convo is so interesting, it’s a great sign that the person you’re on a date with would like to see you again,” she shares. “If the opposite happens, and there are several lulls in the conversation, your date just might not be feeling it, and if so, chalk it up to a one-and-done date.”

Barrett says there are actually clues to be found in your date’s behavior outside of the actual date, especially how they behave over text. “Pay attention to how they text you,” says Barrett. “A sign someone wants to see you again is responsiveness — they quickly, consistently respond to your texts, and they do so with good, positive vibes, rather than short, curt messages. If they text you while they’re still in the Uber on the way home from date number one that’s a huge indicator of interest,” he explains. “And the more emojis they use, the better. When someone feels an emotional bond with another person, they use lots of emojis.” Read more…

The first date is one of the most important events in the relationships of many couples. As important as this occasion is, it is also a very nerve-racking experience to go out with someone you have just met, or just decided to date. Perhaps the fact that this one significant date can potentially become the beginning of a lifelong relationship is why this first date is such an important occurrence. Whatever the reason that the first date is so major, there are many reasons that there is pressure on the first date. The first date is so demanding because it either leads to the occurrence or non-occurrence of the second date. Many people are shy and dating is difficult. If you have just come out of a serious relationship, there is pressure to get right back into a serious relationship.

One of the reasons that the first date is so anxiety filled is that the chances of a second date rest almost solely on what happens on the first date. If the first date is terrible and things go wrong, or the person you have asked out is bored where you take them, or if something is said or done that is offensive, it is difficult to get passed that first bad impression that is left by the first date. Whatever the reason for the date ending in disaster, most of the time, it does not matter whether the problem was intentionally caused or not. They always say that you only have one chance to make a first impression. This is often true in cases of disastrous first dates. One way you can help prevent this is to plan everything ahead of time. The less that can go wrong that is under your control, the better.

Another reason that a first date is so pressure packed is because of shyness. Many people who wish to make a splash in the dating scene are very shy. Some believe that shyness is a self-imposed condition. While this is in part true, many people are painfully shy and this shyness is just as real to them as any other aspect of his or her life. To people like these, dating in general and first dates in particular can be very difficult. If a first date is daunting to people who are not shy, imagine how scary it would be for a shy person. A way that a shy person can help fix this problem is perhaps listen to motivational tapes or get therapy to help him or her with self-esteem.

One other reason that someone might be fearful of a first date is that he or she might have just come out of a serious relationship. If someone is trying to get back into the dating scene after a broken relationship, he or she may feel a certain pressure to find a new partner and begin another serious relationship again. This type of person always needs to be sure that he or she is ready to date again. It may not be the right thing to do to start dating if there is no chance of a new relationship with that person at that point. Plus, if that person moves on to a new relationship without being ready for it, the new relationship may not go well.

There are several reasons first dates are nerve-racking. From the fact that there may or may not be a second date, to someone being shy, to an old relationship hanging over one’s head, a first date can have a lot of pressure associated with it. By making changes in your life, you can conquer whatever fears you have associated with the first date.

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Online Dating Photo Tips

Dineen revealed the online dating photo mistakes:

A big mistake people make when creating their online dating profiles, according to Dineen, is to include only one photo.

“A sparse dating profile is often seen as a red flag to veteran online dating users. It may indicate you are not genuinely interested in meeting anyone. Or worse — that you are married.”

Dineen reveals that other common mistakes include using blurry or grainy photos which prevent anyone from really seeing your face, group photos that contain more than 15 people making it nearly impossible to identify you, and photos of you only wearing sunglasses.

“Even if you cannot afford to hire a professional, your best bet is to ask your friends for advice. They can help you choose a flattering outfit to wear and take fun, relaxing photos of you for your profile.” Read more…

When you are first joining an online dating community, the most important thing that you can do is build up a good profile. Your profile is going to be the very first thing that people read to get an impression of you but also with most people, guys and girls the same will learn from an appearance. It is important that you create a good profile but your page will get many more views if you upload a picture or two. Having a profile picture can make the best difference when looking for love or friendship online.

Why do some of the users have a profile picture? People are very conscious about what they look like. Some do believe that a member of the opposite sex will not give others a chance if they are good looking. Beauty is only in the eye of the beholder. If you truly are embarrassed to place a photo of yourself online, you should first try and learn to enjoy your own appearance before seeking another for a relationship. There are other people that are scared that posting a picture is an invitation for online predators to scam them. It is true that if you post provocative pictures this can happen. However a regular picture will not usually attract any criminal activity by others. If it would, you should practice safety online to avoid getting involved in giving away too much information about yourself. Posting pictures is a relatively safe idea if you are going to use common sense.

To get the most productive results, you need to post more than one picture. First you should find a good head shot. This can be flirty, funny, or happy. One in which you are looking good and happy with a great smile is going to be the best bet. For the second picture, use a shot that shows at least one of the rests of your body. If you do not include this, some people may think that you are trying to hide something from them. It is better to be proud of who you are and your weight than to hide it and have someone find out later on down the road. Remember that everyone is looking for something different in another person’s appearance.

You need to include some action shots. An example would be if you like animals you should post a picture of you and your dog. If you like sports, you can use a picture in your baseball uniform or at the game may be good. If you travel a lot, you can upload a great picture of you at a landmark in the background. These are all interesting shots that will give the other online a good idea of your personality. Getting the interest of another person is the main goal of online dating and a picture can help you get the results that you are looking for.

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How To Break Up An Online Relationship

Stinson reported that it’s not ok to break up with someone over email or text,

https://www.bustle.com/p/do-you-have-to-break-up-in-person-9-people-on-why-digital-breakups-are-ok-18737526“Despite how normal it might seem to slip away from your romance with a text, people don’t love it. Michael Kaye, global communications manager at OKCupid, tells Bustle that in an OKCupid survey, 81% of respondents said it is not OK to breakup with someone over email or text. With that being said, women are more likely to break up with someone online than men.

“In general I think actually saying things at all is better than ghosting, which is such a pattern these days. Especially in more casual relationships. When someone is breaking up with me, I would much rather something fast and straightforward, even if that means online. I’ve actually been pretty lucky to have dated people who’ve modeled good communication even during breakups, and over time I learned to copy what I had seen. Be kind, but be honest.” Read more…

When you breakup with someone that you either love or once loved, it is always going to be a difficult and painful time. Surviving a break up is something that virtually everyone has to go through at some point in their lives. So, if this is your first time trying to cope with a break up, then here are some useful tips that will help you to move forward and end your heartache sooner rather than later.

When working at surviving a break up, don’t depend on your ex to help you get through the breakup. That means that you will have to stop all contact with your ex and not rely on them for the late night chats or for help to move that huge piece of furniture from one side of the room to the next. Whatever space your ex filled in your life, you’re going to have to to fill that space with someone or something else.

Surviving a break up means that you have to look forward and not constantly look back. Of course if your relationship was long-term and you were in love, then you are not going to simply get over the end of that relationship over night. It will take you time to come to terms with what has happened. You will need to reflect and process the relationship. However, a huge mistake would be if you spent all your spare time thinking about nothing but ‘when you and your ex did this, or when you and your ex did that!’

Get ready to get out and meet some new people. Meeting new people can be a great buzz. It can help you to see that there is life out there, beyond your ex, and you can be a part of that life. So get out of your dirty sweats and go and talk to some new people.

When you’re surviving a break up, it is very easy to find that you have not been looking after yourself physically. It could be that you find that you’re eating nothing but junk food and you might even be drinking too much. Remember, alcohol is a depressant and though it might make you feel much more able to cope with what you are going through in regard to your breakup, come the next morning it will only make you feel low and depressed.

Instead, concentrate on eating well and adding some exercise to your life. Take one day at a time and before you know it, you will have got through a month and then many months and you will have survived your break up!

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Fashion Tips For A First Date

Arora gave some advices for men going on a first date,

https://www.mensxp.com/fashion/style-guide/56331-style-mistakes-to-avoid-on-a-first-date.html“So, you have an upcoming date with someone you’ve been talking to, for a while, through an online dating app. This could be a tricky situation as you might be in a fix about what you should be wearing to make that first best impression.

No pressure, but the first impression your date will have of you will be based on your attire. This implies that you need to choose carefully what you wear, and put some effort in the way you dress.

Steer clear from anything that doesn’t fit you well: shirts, pants, blazers, and suits. You don’t want to come across as someone who couldn’t bother less to get their suits stitched right. Go get yourself measured, and get the right size for your date.

Satin shirts are definitely a bad idea for the summer-y and humid months. The fabric of these shirts is not breathable at all and you’ll be drenched in a pool of sweat in no time.” Read more…

Do you have knowledge of the right dressing sense? Most of us like to wear fashionable clothes. We least bother whether it goes on with our body type or not. All of us need to have some knowledge as far as dressing is concerned.

Here are some clothing tips for men that can help them to decide a perfect wear for their different body type.

Short Waist Men

Short waist men should avoid wearing jeans and pants as much as they can. Avoid wearing short lengthy tank tops as they tend to highlight your short waist. A combination of pink shirt and black trouser will not go with your body type as it would interfere with the vertical flow. It would always be advisable to keep an inch higher on waist while stitching your pants.

Long Waist Men

Long Waits men need to do things the other way round when compared to short waist men. You should wear jeans as much as you can. You can wear contrasting color T-shirts and a double breast jacket to prevent people’s eyes from falling on your legs. You could also opt for belts with a high buckle.

Men with flat butts

Are you worried about your flat butts? You need to take special attention about your pants. Wear pants that give you proper fitting. Straight long pants will go with your body type.

Fashion tips that can help
• Bigger and bolder patterns make you look bigger than what you actually are.
• Horizontal pattern clothe help you look wider
• Vertical pattern clothes help you look taller and thinner.

 

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Pitfalls of Online Dating

Mandy recently reflected on the pitfalls of online dating,

“The pitfalls of online dating are many. In fact, many people that I speak to complain of ‘online dating fatigue’. They complain that they have met a wide variety of people yet haven’t found “the one” or “that spark” . It’s never been so easy to date but it’s also never been harder. Here’s why:

There are different expectations when you meet someone through a friend or when you are out and about compared to meeting someone through an online dating site. When you meet someone through an online dating site, you have a checklist in your mind as if pre-ordering something off Amazon. We forget about the person and look at potential dates as a commodity.

It’s far more natural meeting someone away from the online dating scene and online dating has created a population of people who see online dating as shopping for a partner. It’s never that simple though. There are those that get lucky and find someone they connect with but they are in the minority. I can identify with the change in attitude when online dating. A few years back I was obsessed with online dating. I was convinced I would meet the man of my dreams online and naively went about looking for him. I met a lovely man but he had been doing the online dating thing a lot longer and the restless fickleness had taken hold of him. He was indecisive and wasn’t sure as there were ‘so many other potential women’ for him. We stayed friends but he never stopped dating.” Read more…

Watch out for lies and embellishments There are certain things which people commonly lie about within their profile. The most common include: Height, weight, age, and occupation. Also be aware that people may embellish a little bit about themselves to make themselves sound better. For example, they may over exaggerate their travel experience, college education, etc… As mentioned before, even some pictures can’t be trusted. Some people use old photos of themselves because they looked better back then. Most important, be aware that some people lie about their relationship status. Married people have been known to state they are single on online dating sites.

Be careful about sharing your email As mentioned, most online dating sites allow you to use an anonymous internal communication system. Make sure you take full advantage of that. If you do start to feel comfortable with someone and would like to share an email address with them, don’t use your regular email address. Set up a free email address that you use strictly for your online dating activities. You can easily obtain one through yahoo, hotmail, gmail, etc…

Be careful about sharing your personal information It’s easy to get swept up and excited about the possibility of a new romance. However, the anonymous nature of online dating sites makes it just as (if not) more important than ever to protect your personal information. Don’t share your full name. Never give out the details of exactly where you work, or go to school. You can say something like “I work at a major downtown law firm.” If they ask, “Which one?” Just politely tell them you’d rather not say until you get to know them a little better. Most people will understand and respect your decision to not share. Don’t ever give out your address. Be very careful about giving out your telephone number. This is especially true of your cell phone number.

Don’t get too serious too fast It’s best to just keep things on the lighter side for a little while when you first meet someone from an online dating site. Keeping things friendly and light will help you to get to know the other person a lot better than just diving into a relationship.

Using an online dating service will help you to find your ideal person for a relationship. By using it to its full potential you won’t have to just “settle” for someone.Unfortunately, there are some people of questionable character in this world. You’re just as likely to meet someone who is up to no good at the gym, bar/club, or even at work as you are at an online dating site. The only difference with online dating sites is the level of anonymity that is provided for users. It’s a dual edge sword. It helps protect the innocent and allows those of dubious character to get away with a little more. These pitfalls and dangers weren’t mentioned to scare you. Online dating sites provide safe, fun, and exciting ways to meet people. Just keep these tips in mind and use common sense. The majority of people on online dating sites are legitimately searching for someone they can connect with, have fun with, and maybe even fall in love with. Maybe that special person they’re waiting for is you!

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Questions to Ask on a First Date

Sometimes it’s difficult to find the right questions to ask on the first date. Business insider revealed:

https://www.businessinsider.com/worst-questions-to-ask-on-a-first-date-relationship-advice-2019-8#how-can-you-work-in-a-job-like-that-4“Relationships experts say to stay away from overly personal questions on the first date.

Asking people invasive questions regarding their relationship with family and friends gets too nosy, says Rori Sassoon, a relationship expert based in New York City. “That’s just so personal, number one, and it’s not your business, number two,” Sassoon told Business Insider.

If you’re not sure if something is too personal, you can ask your date if they mind sharing, Shira Teichman, a dating coach and cofounder of the dating app Forj, told Business Insider. While Teichman understands many people want to skip the “small talk” and get to a deep conversation, you must ease into these topics so the other person does not become uncomfortable.” Read more…

After you are past the initial small talk, ask her, “What are the biggest mistakes guys make when dating online?” Listen carefully to her answers. She’s going to tell you a lot about herself and her views on men in general.

Next you should ask her, “What do you really think about online dating?” Now she will tell you if she has had any bad experiences dating o line and help you to avoid making the same things wrong.

Now for the all-important one…..”What caused the break up in your last relationship?” If she puts all the blame on the guy, you should probably move on to the next prospect. If she takes all the blame herself, you should probably do the same. If she says the breakup was by mutual consent or that the relationship just wasn’t right for either of them, you’ve heard the right answer. Move forward but always with caution.

Asking the right questions will give you insight and make you more confident when you meet the lady for the first time.

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What Jobs are the Most Attractive in Dating?

Are lawyers and doctors attractive? Askmen just reported

“As it turns out, women really dig men who have a way with words and rhetoric, preferring lawyers by a substantial margin. Whether this attraction comes down to the fact that being beaten in an argument is a big turn-on or whether lawyers generally place in the upper end of earning potential remains unclear.

Nonetheless, male lawyers received a whopping 135 percent more messages than the average man on this particular dating platform – more than twice as many – which is a big plus for guys with a law gig.

Coming in at a respectable but distant second place are doctors – so yes, being a famous doctor or lawyer, just like your mother always said, is definitely a dating advantage. Male physicians were inundated with a flood of messages, generally getting 82 percent more interest than the average man on the site. Whether the role is kissing a booboo better or providing some nurturing bedside manner, it looks like women definitely show a strong preference for them in terms of potential partnership”. Read more…

At one time or another and maybe in some people’s cases all the time we’ve dreamed about dating a rich guy or gal. You know the successful lawyer or doctor or the on the edge entrepreneur. It’s that perfect scene we play in our head that allows us to see things just the way we want them to be but in reality dating a professional single may not be quite so picture perfect. Now I don’t mean that in a negative sense I mean that more in a realistic, scheduling, goal reaching, aggressive personality sense.

What is a professional single?

I guess in technical terms it would be any single person who holds a “white collar” job. A business owner, a executive, a doctor, a lawyer, I think you get the idea. Someone who probably has a college degree, maybe several, someone who is driven to succeed, who probably enjoys the finer things in life, who doesn’t like excuses but relishes results. A person who wants to make the most out of their professional life. They are not satisfied with a 9 to 5 career but are instead looking for every opportunity to succeed as far as they can in their given field. Does that make them a bad person? Does that make them a person who cares for no one but themselves? Hardly, in fact the world needs driven individuals like a professional single. Can you imagine where we would be if the Romans had not had so many driven people or if the Egyptians had decided that thinking big was too much? I’m not trying to get into a history lesson or morality debate here, I’m just showing what a person who is trying to get the most out of themselves can do. A single professional is certainly a person trying to get the most out of themselves.

What are the downfalls to dating a professional single?

Like any relationship involving two people you will always have downfalls so don’t be under the impression that dating a professional single will be any better or worse than dating the non-professional single. Those factors lie more in who the person is not what their career is. I mean if you date a jerk, you date a jerk. Whether he has on a $1500 suit or a pair of Levi Overalls, he’s a jerk. OK, so what are the downfalls to dating a professional single?

Time away from home – This means time away from you

The job is always on their mind – You might be out on the perfect dinner date but if a big deal is in the works you should not be surprised if the cell phone rings and it’s answered.

Perfectionism – They may not be the tidiest person or remember to bring flowers but in some way all highly driven professionals are perfectionists

Job is first – Can you play second fiddle? Although this may not be true in every sense but in many ways the job will come first.

How to avoid the downfalls of dating a professional single.

Time away from home – Of course they’re going to be going to the office everyday, maybe out of town once a week or more and maybe even over a weekend in fact if they are very driven, you can expect all of these and more. Late hours, early mornings, numerous days in which you may not see each other and might not even speak one on one. The remedy? Communicate. Have an ongoing calendar, it won’t be perfect as things change but it’s one tool in communicating. If you can see a schedule it will help you understand what’s going that week or day. Always talk once a day. Both of you must be committed to speaking to each other daily. It might be for only 5 minutes at 2 a.m. but it will make a difference.

The job is always on their mind – In every persons professional career especially early on they are given responsibility to get the job done. This may entail them following up on every detail at all hours of the day and night. You must understand that this is part of working your way to the top and even more importantly the professional you are dating must understand that although they might have to take a call at dinner they should keep it as brief as possible and let their colleagues know that a call should only be made if it is extremely important or critical in nature. Communication once again plays a role in the relationship, for all parties involved.

Perfectionism – How hard is it to be perfect? Well since no one that I’ve ever met is, it must be impossible. That being said we probably all have idiosyncrasies that some would consider a trait of perfectionism. Professional singles are no different, they must have details or actions within their jobs that require perfectionism otherwise the product or service they produce would be substandard which is not the mark of a successful professional. Take the perfectionism in stride and recognize you probably have some traits that drive your partner nuts. Identify, recognize and adapt. Those three words will go along way in helping you and him or her overcome your faults.

The job is first – Ouch, how can someone put something before me? Guess what, this happens whether the person is a professional single or a everyday man. Something’s always going to be important to someone and there may come a time when they have to choose you over that activity or function. Although this is a very black and white statement the truth is there is no easy answer for this question. In the case of a job you would have to look at each incident to determine the worth. For example if you had a date planned at 7 and you get a call at 6:45 that something came up at work it’s ok to be upset but more importantly you need to judge the moment. Without being a nagger you should find out what is so important that it can’t wait until tomorrow, if the answer is valid then you must put it in context with the relationship overall. You knew going in that the career of the person was a big part of their life so you should accept that with that commitment to career comes some sacrifice on your end. However if you find out the reason for the cancellation is not a 911 emergency but a 411 pizza call then you should re-assess the person immediately. This would be a case of someone who is not honest, respectful or committed to having a relationship.

Let’s summarize: Dating a professional single will probably entitle you to a lifestyle that leans towards the finer things in life and would probably ensure a future of financial stability and a golden retirement. Dating a professional single will also bring you many hours of you time, interrupted plans and until those retirement years a backseat to the demands of a successful career. If you are a person that can see a person for what they are and accept them for those strengths and faults and if that person meets what you deem as the perfect mate then dating a professional single is probably the best thing you will ever do.

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How to Protect Yourself in Online Dating

Ways to protect yourself in online dating were discussed by ksdk.com

 “Dating apps and online matching websites can offer a safe space for people to meet. They can also be a way to get scammed, or worse – be harmed.

The first thing you should do is Google yourself so that you can see what comes up when someone Googles your name. Realize that the information that comes up is available for anyone to see when they look you up.

When you’re creating a digital profile for a dating site, you want to really limit the information you share. For example, instead of sharing your personal phone number, get a free phone number from Google Voice and have those messages roll over to your phone.

Another important reminder is to be sure not to use the same photo on your dating profile that you have on other social media platforms. Google offers a reverse image lookup, so your other platforms can easily be found by a photo search.” Read more…

Online dating is becoming more and more mainstream, as people from all walks of life plug in and find their soul mate in cyberspace. Here are six tips to finding that special someone while still maintaining your privacy and safety online.

1. Avoid large, public chat rooms where anything can (and does!) take place. Some people frequent these areas just to see what they can get away with. Instead, focus on smaller, more targeted web sites or chat rooms that match your interests or lifestyle. There are many online dating sites that cater to specific hobbies and several offer free trial memberships.

2. When you find a chat room, dating site, or forum that matches your interest, introduce yourself with only as much information as you feel comfortable giving. Don’t plaster your phone number, address or any other personal information on the site. Wait until you meet someone with whom you truly “click” and have spoken to them for awhile. Common sense and that “gut feeling” are great indicators for when something just doesn’t seem quite right.

3. Participate in the forum or chat room regularly. Keep it “low-key” until you start forming friendships with the regular members there. Be honest, and be yourself – after all, being natural is what will endear you to a particular mate.

4. Keep your correspondence limited to e-mail and chat until you get to know the person well enough to feel comfortable sharing your phone number and talking for the first time. If you need a good ice-breaker, start off the chat by talking about the forum or chat room where you met and any special interests that brought you two together.

5. If you decide to meet each other in person, choose a neutral, public place. You may even choose a town or city that’s not the same as the one where you live. Restaurants, parks, theaters and other public places where people gather often are a good place to start. Alternately, you could choose to attend a special event in your area together, perhaps a concert, festival or fair. Either way, let friends or family know where you’re going and who you’re going with, as well as what time you’ll be returning so they’ll know how and where to reach you.

6. If you’re interested in a few online “matches” that come your way, consider setting up a post office box and a free e-mail account to share information with each other. That way, if you come to find that you really don’t “click” with this person, you won’t feel as if you’ve given any personal contact information away.

If you follow these six tips, chances are you’ll have a great time with your cyber date and have a successful experience with online dating. Remember to be honest and be yourself! If you do, chances are that you’ll find that perfect special someone who enjoys you for who you are!

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More Tips for Online Dating Safety

An interesting tip for online dating safety was offered by Verna magazine:

“…using Video Validate on a dating website: Let’s say you’ve met someone that you like on a dating site and you are interested in meeting this individual in person. Yet there is one more step that you can take to make sure he/she is representing himself/herself – you can send this member a ‘Video Validation’ request by clicking on the Vv icon on that member’s dating profile (if it’s available on the dating website). Alternatively, you can send a request directly through the Vv website. Then Vv will send a text message or an email to that member. Please note that all data is anonymous, which means the Vv email or text message only includes instructions and a ‘reply’ button for creating an ‘introduce yourself’ video which is date and time stamped. After that, the message will return back to the requesting party via an anonymous email. Vv recognizes and accesses the camera on the device after that member clicks on the ‘reply’ button” Read more

When you are looking to give online dating a try, you must know from the beginning that online dating, just as a traditional dating, does carry with it a few risks. However you like to do it, dating is a dangerous game.

While Internet dating can open many doors for daters, you need to be smart and safe when meeting people online. Most of people online are honest and sincere people who are looking for a partner, but there are also people with ill intentions. When getting to know people online you should follow some basic safety rules.

To make the online dating experience a great one, you should keep in mind some safety tips such as:

– you have to be patient; online dating requires a lot of patience; even if you are anxious to meet new people, don’t rush into meeting with strangers; you should take time to know the person before you meet in real life

-one of the most important rules is that you should keep your personal information private; if you don’t know who you are dealing with, do not provide personal information about yourself; don’t share your real name, phone number, place of work, address, or any other identify information while chatting or emailing until you are comfortable doing so; this information may fall into wrong hands

-also never give out personal financial details of wages, salaries, savings, investments, bank credits or card details

-even if you decide to make a date, you should not give personal information about yourself until you know the person better

-if you decided to meet the person face to face, you better choose a meeting during the day and in a public place

– but you shouldn’t jump from online chats to a face to face meeting; first you have to collect some information about that person; it is better to talk on the phone, and use it as an additional checkpoint; a phone can reveal much about a person’s communication and social skills; in this way you can protect your security

-ask for a photo, this will give you a good idea of the person’s appearance; it she comes with excuses, it means that she has something to hide

-also it is important that you use a recent picture and be truthful in your description about yourself; think about the fact that maybe someday you will have to meet her face to face and then she will get angry to see that you have lied from the beginning; so you can end a possible relationship before it begins

-don’t be afraid to flirt a little if that’s how you feel, but don’t be too flirtations as it could be taken the wrong way

-wait until you find your soul mate, don’t fall in love with the first girl who is chatting with you; make carefully choices about the information you provide to a date and also be conservative regarding choices of physical and emotional intimacy

-take all the time you need to test a person to see if she is lying and pay carefully attention along the way; if you think she is lying, act accordingly; move on to someone you can eventually trust

-if you feel something is not right, listen to your gut and get out the situation; use common sense to make good decisions; trust your instincts and immediately quit corresponding when you feel unsure; if she is not your type let her know politely by proposing her to be just friends

-so if anything makes you feel uncomfortable and if you have some doubts about that person, walk away for your own safety and protection

-watch out for someone who seems too good to be true because may not be who she says

-stop communicating with anyone who pressures you for giving your private information

-you can ask a lot of questions and make sure you are satisfied with the answers you get

-only meet when you are ready, and when you consider that you have all the information you need about that person

-never meet someone who argues against your instincts or pressures you in any way

-it is better to stick reputable and honest online dating services for your safety

I wish you good luck in finding your soul mate and it is up to you now to keep your own safety and protection.

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Online First Date Ideas

What to do on the first date from online? An Austin app lets users do volunteer work together on a first date

“Most people who are on Tinder, they just want to meet and go do their thing,” Elias said. “This is like, you’re meeting someone who’s willing to give their time, donate their time. You figure that’s a plus.

Swoovy users set up their accounts like any other dating app, marking their preferred gender, age, height, age and more. Then they can connect with others by liking any of three potential matches each day. Users also can find connections by marking that they’re interested in a volunteer event.

“The idea has been in the works for a year and a half,” Waupsh said. “I’m surrounded daily by single friends and single family members, all hearing and discussing the online dating world today. How do you meet better people?

Central Texas Food Bank does not yet have a way to track how many volunteers are Swoovy daters. Other volunteer opportunities on the app include gardening with Urban Roots, walking dogs for Hound Rescue Central Texas and hosting a studio session for the homeless through Art from the Streets.” Read more

Here are more ideas for the fist date

When thinking of ideas for a a first date I like to try new things. Rather than cater to what either one of us enjoys I try to find something completely new. This is my way of starting off the relationship with a bang and some excitement. Dinner and a movie has been done to death and so have trips to bars and clubs. Give a few of these ideas a shot and you will be pleasantly surprised.

Skydiving
I haven’t tried this out for a first date idea yet but it seems like it would really be great (provided neither of you are afraid of heights). It’s exhilarating and standing together at the door of a plane about to jump out at several thousand feet has a romantic appeal that not many other things can match. Call your local municipal airport to see if they have any skydiving instructors.

Hookah Cafes
If you’re not one of the enlightened who enjoys middle eastern food and hookah then you should definitely give it a try. It might not be a good option for the health conscious but for the rest of us it makes an excellent first date. Hookah cafes are usually bustling places with a laid back and cozy atmosphere and is a great place to smoke a hookah, enjoy some coffee and have a nice conversation. This works especially well for college students as there are usually many cafes nearby.

Art Conventions/Galleries
One of my favorite places to have a first date is at the monthly art walk they have here through the downtown area. Artists and vendors get together and line the streets. Musicians play their music for you as you walk around and take in the artwork. It works wonders for anyone who can appreciate art.

Live Comedy
Another astounding option for first dates are local comedy clubs. There are a handful of really excellent ones in my area featuring both professional and amateur local comedy acts. This is a great way to break the ice; with some laughs.

Wine Tasting/Tours
If you live somewhere close to vineyards taking a tour or going to a wine tasting make excellent first dates (as long as you’re 21+). A few good wines and good conversation tucked away on a vineyard seems peaceful to me and has worked wonders for me in the past.

Scuba Diving
If you are fortunate enough to live near the beach snorkeling or scuba diving make great date activities. Follow a romp in the ocean with a nice seaside dinner and you have the makings of romance.

Poetry Readings/Book Signings
Poetry readings make great first dates and if you’re the adventurous type you can even whip up a peace to read your date at the reading. Talk about a way to score some points! Book signings are also great even if you’re not really into books. You can enjoy coffee and conversation with your date and often enjoy a dramatic reading from the author.

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