Stinson reported that it’s not ok to break up with someone over email or text,
“Despite how normal it might seem to slip away from your romance with a text, people don’t love it. Michael Kaye, global communications manager at OKCupid, tells Bustle that in an OKCupid survey, 81% of respondents said it is not OK to breakup with someone over email or text. With that being said, women are more likely to break up with someone online than men.
“In general I think actually saying things at all is better than ghosting, which is such a pattern these days. Especially in more casual relationships. When someone is breaking up with me, I would much rather something fast and straightforward, even if that means online. I’ve actually been pretty lucky to have dated people who’ve modeled good communication even during breakups, and over time I learned to copy what I had seen. Be kind, but be honest.” Read more…
When you breakup with someone that you either love or once loved, it is always going to be a difficult and painful time. Surviving a break up is something that virtually everyone has to go through at some point in their lives. So, if this is your first time trying to cope with a break up, then here are some useful tips that will help you to move forward and end your heartache sooner rather than later.
When working at surviving a break up, don’t depend on your ex to help you get through the breakup. That means that you will have to stop all contact with your ex and not rely on them for the late night chats or for help to move that huge piece of furniture from one side of the room to the next. Whatever space your ex filled in your life, you’re going to have to to fill that space with someone or something else.
Surviving a break up means that you have to look forward and not constantly look back. Of course if your relationship was long-term and you were in love, then you are not going to simply get over the end of that relationship over night. It will take you time to come to terms with what has happened. You will need to reflect and process the relationship. However, a huge mistake would be if you spent all your spare time thinking about nothing but ‘when you and your ex did this, or when you and your ex did that!’
Get ready to get out and meet some new people. Meeting new people can be a great buzz. It can help you to see that there is life out there, beyond your ex, and you can be a part of that life. So get out of your dirty sweats and go and talk to some new people.
When you’re surviving a break up, it is very easy to find that you have not been looking after yourself physically. It could be that you find that you’re eating nothing but junk food and you might even be drinking too much. Remember, alcohol is a depressant and though it might make you feel much more able to cope with what you are going through in regard to your breakup, come the next morning it will only make you feel low and depressed.
Instead, concentrate on eating well and adding some exercise to your life. Take one day at a time and before you know it, you will have got through a month and then many months and you will have survived your break up!